My infertility background goes back to 2015, when my ex and I decided to seek treatment. Oral meds, injectables, HSG, exploratory laparoscopy, IUIs, etc were all dead ends. The doctors had no explanation and suggested I do IVF. My ex was not willing to do IVF. I was not willing to never have children. We went our separate ways and I did IVF with a sperm donor. I’ve had 3 egg retrievals and 9 embryo transfers (plus 1 embryo that didn’t survive thaw). I have my 2 miracle daughters, but have been wanting another baby. In fact, after delivery of my second daughter, I was asking my OB doc when I could get pregnant again! I started the process for baby #3 in January 2022 and have had nothing but letdowns, failures, losses, and tears. My egg quality is poor, and I don’t want to keep putting my body through this when I already know what I’ll yield. However, I can’t bring myself to completely give up when I feel that my family isn’t quite complete. I came across embryo adoption and knew this could be the answer to completing my family. I’ve always wanted a big family, but think 3 children would be the perfect number (and I’m not completely closed off to a 4th if it’s from the same embryo donor family).

 

My oldest daughter is J. She goes by “J” a lot and is 4 years old (born April 2019). She is sweet, is my “rule follower”, makes friends everywhere she goes, and loves gymnastics. My youngest daughter is J. She goes by “J” a lot and is 2 years old (born April 2021). She is sweet and sour, a “mama’s girl”, loves to do whatever big sissy does, is quiet and soft spoken (until she’s mad!), and loves playing outside.

I would describe myself as hardworking, loyal, caring/caretaker, and funny. I am very organized and would consider myself a “go-getter”. I love to laugh and have fun, but I also know how to be serious. As a nurse, I deal with tough situations, people receiving life changing news, and emergency situations- all of which I can be focused and sincere. Everyone that knows me knows my kids are my top priority and my whole world.

I work as a RN at a surgery center, and after having kids I went part time. I work 3 days a week (8 hour shifts). I want to be able to spend as much time with my kids as I can, they’re only young once! I love having the 2 additional days during the week to spend together and go do fun things. I also want to be able to go to school functions, schools parties/programs, field trips, etc. once they are school aged. My kids attend a daycare on the days I work. It’s affiliated with the surgery center and they love it there. I’ve been extremely pleased with all of their teachers, staff, and curriculum.

We live in a suburb, in a neighborhood that is about 15 years old. It’s a young neighborhood, it’s mostly families with children. Our direct neighbors on the street all look out for each other and the kids play together. Our house was built in 2009, is around 3400 square feet, 4 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms. Plenty of room to grow!

My kids have tons of things to play with outdoors: bikes, tricycles, motorized scooters, kids gardening tools, a jeep, and in the back yard they have an outdoor playset and sandbox. When we play inside, they have dolls, a play house, a play kitchen, mini trampoline, mini slide, strollers, shopping cart, cars, trucks, and many toys. They enjoy painting and drawing as well. We have a membership to the local zoo and a local kids museum, both are hits every time we visit. We also have gymnastics every Saturday, that they both absolutely love.

 

We go to a non denominational Christian church every Sunday morning, and I volunteer at the Saturday night service 2-3 times per month. The kids either come with me when I volunteer, or they go to grandma’s to play - grandma has a bounce house in her basement! They like to spend the night with grandma a couple times a month too. Grandma lives about 5 minutes from us, so she’s always there if we need her. If I have an appointment, or want to have a one-on-one date with one of the kids, grandma usually jumps at the chance to get the girls. Their grandma also wants the best education for them and will be helping pay for them to go to a private Christian school. My oldest will be starting kindergarten next fall, and we have 2 different private Christian schools we are going to be touring this fall. Both myself and grandma also contribute to a college fund, which I opened when each of them were born.

 

When I was around 13 years old, my parents bought a house at a lake that’s about 4 hours from here. My dad passed away, so the house is now my mom, my brother, and mine. We spend close to every weekend there in the summer- every other weekend at minimum (and usually they are long 3 or 4 day weekends). I was raised going to the lake, and I’m loving raising my kids the same. We have a private boat dock with a boat, 2 jet skis, 2 kayaks, a paddle board, and 3 sea scooters. For fun in the boat, we have wakeboards, a surfboard, a wake trainer, skis, and a large tube called the “super mable”. We have a Kawasaki mule that the kids like to ride around in during the evenings as well. It’s been a real blessing to see my kids get to grow up and make memories at the lake with their cousins just like I did. We also take trips throughout the year to visit family in other states. I grew up spending a lot of time with cousins and family and I’d like to continue that tradition. We also are taking our very first cruise here in a few months. The girls are very excited. My brother and sister in law have a vacatiom home on a beach that we visit a time it 2 a year as well.

 

I know that I am a single mom and that seems less desirable, but my children are living an amazing childhood and are definitely not disadvantaged by it. They are so loved and get to have trips and do things that some kids don’t get to do or experience. I hope that you will consider me and my family for embryo adoption.