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Hobbies

Being a leader of a group, Belonging to a club, Collecting things, Cooking, Eating, Reading, Going to church/temple, Keeping pets, Listening to music, Sewing/knitting, Taking care of animals, Taking care of people, Watching TV or movies, Writing, Drawing/painting, Visiting with friends, Singing

Occupation

Teacher/Professor

Teacher/Professor

Relationship Status

Single Parent

Ethnicity

White/Caucasian

Religion

Christian

Type of Home

House

Type of neighbourhood

Suburbs

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First Name

01112024

Last Name

Country

United States of America

Address

Eye Color

Green

Hair Color

Light Brown

Height

5' 5"

Education

Graduate degree

Gender

Female

Smoking

No

Drinking

Never

Hobbies

Being a leader of a group, Belonging to a club, Collecting things, Cooking, Eating, Reading, Going to church/temple, Keeping pets, Listening to music, Sewing/knitting, Taking care of animals, Taking care of people, Watching TV or movies, Writing, Drawing/painting, Visiting with friends, Singing

Age

34

CHILDREN DETAIL

Children

Do you have kids?

None

How many kids do you have?

Zero

Children

How old are they?

N/A

Do they live with you?

N/A

Tell us about your children. What do they like to do for fun?

N/A

PHOTOS

Photos

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Fullname

01112024

LastName

Resident Country

United States of America

Address

Eye Color

Green

Hair Color

Light Brown

Height

5' 5"

Ethnicity

White/Caucasian

Education

Graduate degree

Hobbies

Being a leader of a group, Belonging to a club, Collecting things, Cooking, Eating, Reading, Going to church/temple, Keeping pets, Listening to music, Sewing/knitting, Taking care of animals, Taking care of people, Watching TV or movies, Writing, Drawing/painting, Visiting with friends, Singing

Religion

Christian

Occupation

Teacher/Professor

Type of home

House

Type of Neighbourhood

Fullname

LastName

Resident Country

Address

Eye Color

Hair Color

Height

Ethnicity

Education

Hobbies

Religion

Occupation

Type of Home

Type of Neighbourhood

FAVOURITES

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Actor

Julie Andrews

Animal or Pet

Cats

Author

Children's: Kevin Henkes; Fiction: several, but Louisa May Alcott; non-fiction: Brené Brown

Bedtime story

James Herriot Treasury; Songbooks (Over in the Meadow, Had a Little Rooster, Jennie Jenkins)

Beverage / Drink

Tea (hot or iced); Soda: Shirley Temple or Grapico

Book

To Kill a Mockingbird, Anne of Green Gables, Where the Red Fern Grows, Little Women, Count of Monte Cristo, most historical fiction

Candy Bar

Butterfingers, Milky Way Simply Caramel

Childhood Memory

At Christmas the Children's Hospital used to have a fundraiser called "The Festival of Trees," and one component was a "secret shopper" section where children would go in a private area with an assigned volunteer and a budget (donation) and shop through dime-store items to give to people on their Christmas list. I would emerge from the area with my shopping list fulfilled with red and green plastic-wrapped gifts, excited fit to burst to give the items to their recipients. I could never keep the secret from my mom past the parking deck! She still teases me today when I have a gift for her, "You can't stand it. You'll end up telling me because you're so excited for me to know."

Color

Blue and Green

Dessert

Warm Homemade Brownies; Fruit Pizza

Disney Movie

The Lion King, Beauty and the Beast, Remember the Titans

Car

Job

Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor (after I raise my family)

Family Activity

Winter Night in: home-cooked dinner, build a fire, work a puzzle, while watching a movie or listening to an audiobook together

Restaurant

Chick-Fil-A

Flower

Magnolia and Hydrangea

Fruit

Peach

Hobby

No Data

No Data

Hobby

Quilting, sewing, cooking, attending musicals and plays

Holiday

No Data

No Data

Holiday

Christmas and non-scary/non-gory Halloween

Song

This changes frequently so I'll list genres: folk, bluegrass, country, 60s, and Christian anthem songs

Sport to play

My "sport" through high school and college was Marching Band and I loved it and met so many friends through my participation

Favourites

Sport to watch

No Data

No Data

Sport to watch

My college's football games

Traditions

In the Fall, when the fairs and festivals start (Fiddler's Convention, Hot Air Balloon Festival, markets, Pioneer Days, etc.) At Christmas, Mother and I always take a weekend trip to an annual craftsmans' fair, see the Christmas Lights, ride the Christmas Dinner Train, then enjoy High Tea for brunch at a crisis pregnancy center fundraiser before we drive home

In the Fall, when the fairs and festivals start (Fiddler's Convention, Hot Air Balloon Festival, markets, Pioneer Days, etc.) At Christmas, Mother and I always take a weekend trip to an annual craftsmans' fair, see the Christmas Lights, ride the Christmas Dinner Train, then enjoy High Tea for brunch at a crisis pregnancy center fundraiser before we drive home

Things to cook

Any variation of buffalo chicken dishes

TV show

Call the Midwife, The Golden Girls, Friends, I Love Lucy, Bones, House MD

Movie

Forrest Gump, Legally Blonde; Christmas: Christmas Vacation, Miracle on 34th Street (1947)

FAVOURITES

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Actor

Julie Andrews

Pet

Cats

Arthur

Children's: Kevin Henkes; Fiction: several, but Louisa May Alcott; non-fiction: Brené Brown

Bedtime story

James Herriot Treasury; Songbooks (Over in the Meadow, Had a Little Rooster, Jennie Jenkins)

Beverage / Drink

Tea (hot or iced); Soda: Shirley Temple or Grapico

Book

To Kill a Mockingbird, Anne of Green Gables, Where the Red Fern Grows, Little Women, Count of Monte Cristo, most historical fiction

Candy Bar

Butterfingers, Milky Way Simply Caramel

Childhood Memory

At Christmas the Children's Hospital used to have a fundraiser called "The Festival of Trees," and one component was a "secret shopper" section where children would go in a private area with an assigned volunteer and a budget (donation) and shop through dime-store items to give to people on their Christmas list. I would emerge from the area with my shopping list fulfilled with red and green plastic-wrapped gifts, excited fit to burst to give the items to their recipients. I could never keep the secret from my mom past the parking deck! She still teases me today when I have a gift for her, "You can't stand it. You'll end up telling me because you're so excited for me to know."

Color

Blue and Green

Dessert

Warm Homemade Brownies; Fruit Pizza

Disney Movie

The Lion King, Beauty and the Beast, Remember the Titans

Dream Car

Dream Job

Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor (after I raise my family)

Dream Vacation

I've always looked forward to a Disney cruise with my parents and my kids, especially when we heard a rumor that the ship is commandeered on the first day by Captain Hook, and Mickey saves the boat on the final day. I know my parents would be so enthusiastic and play into the act thoroughly for the entertainment of the children. I would also like to stay one night in one of the hotels that offer an extremely unique and memorable experience like on a mountainside, an aquarium wall, a giraffe sanctuary, or a lion reservation.

Family Activity

Winter Night in: home-cooked dinner, build a fire, work a puzzle, while watching a movie or listening to an audiobook together

Resturant

Chick-Fil-A

Flower

Magnolia and Hydrangea

Fruit

Peach

Hobby

Quilting, sewing, cooking, attending musicals and plays

Holiday

Christmas and non-scary/non-gory Halloween

Song

This changes frequently so I'll list genres: folk, bluegrass, country, 60s, and Christian anthem songs

Sport to play

My "sport" through high school and college was Marching Band and I loved it and met so many friends through my participation

sport to Watch

My college's football games

Things to cook:

Any variation of buffalo chicken dishes

Favorite Traditions

In the Fall, when the fairs and festivals start (Fiddler's Convention, Hot Air Balloon Festival, markets, Pioneer Days, etc.) At Christmas, Mother and I always take a weekend trip to an annual craftsmans' fair, see the Christmas Lights, ride the Christmas Dinner Train, then enjoy High Tea for brunch at a crisis pregnancy center fundraiser before we drive home

TV show

Call the Midwife, The Golden Girls, Friends, I Love Lucy, Bones, House MD

Movie

Forrest Gump, Legally Blonde; Christmas: Christmas Vacation, Miracle on 34th Street (1947)

Actor

Pet

Arthur

Bedtime story

Beverage / Drink

Book

Candy Bar

Childhood Memory

Color

Dessert

Disney Movie

Dream Car

Dream Job

Dream Vacation

Family Activity

Resturant

Flower

Fruit

Hobby

Holiday

Song

Sport to play

sport to Watch

Things to cook:

Favorite Traditions

TV show

Letter

INTRO LETTER 

October 25, 2024

Dear Genetic Family,

As I sit down to pen this letter, I hardly know where to begin. I want to start by expressing sincere gratitude for your consideration of me. Without your willingness to open your heart and mind to the possibility of this gift, I would not experience motherhood or have a family of my own. I profoundly recognize your trust and flexibility. I believe in the importance of always acknowledging and honoring your child’s origins so they know their history and how much they were loved by their genetic family so they could have an opportunity at life. I never knew this would be a possibility until people said the right things to me in the right order at the right time, which caused the world of embryo adoption to burst open in front of me like double doors.

 

I am a 34-year-old female. I had traditional expectations for my life growing up including marriage after college and children. As happens with life, it didn’t pan out as expected and I never reached those milestones. I’ve always known I was meant to be a mom. In 2020 I found out that I have the BRCA2 gene mutation, increasing my risk of having breast or ovarian cancer. My team of doctors is wonderfully flexible with me, and they agreed to do preventative surgeries later, as long as I was committed to screenings every six months. The preventative surgeries will take my chances of cancer to an insignificant amount, and these should happen “when you’re 40 or have completed childbearing, whichever comes first.” The six-month scans would catch any concerns very early, and thus far there have been no indications of cancer detected. It is amazing that the doctors can detect this gene mutation so I can be so closely monitored, and any suspicion of cancer can be addressed very early in its development! However, it is no longer in keeping with this timeline to passively wait for life to happen, instead, I knew I had to take steps to achieve my goals of motherhood. At first, I wasn’t sure what that looked like, but now I do.

 

One of my close coworkers would always say “I was an IVF baby!” as her fun fact during meetings, and my best friend and her husband are on a journey with infertility and IVF. My mother completed a compliance survey on an embryology laboratory and she was able to watch the embryologist in action. She told me about her observations very excitedly and suggested I consider freezing my eggs or research what my options are. We’re amazed at scientific advancements in recent years. These are the experiences that first introduced me to the world of IVF. I embraced it as a beautiful method that results in wonderful people who contribute positively to the world. I’ve watched G and JR as they’ve navigated all the hills and valleys of the process. They were able to have four embryos and have gone through one failed transfer. They had to pause their process temporarily while the politicians fought and argued. They waited with bated breath while the Southern Baptist Convention made their decision to support IVF over the summer. G and JR are where I first heard about embryo adoption. She said immediately she would be willing to adopt her remaining embryos to a family, and it took him more time to have peace with the idea. The SBC said they support IVF when paired with embryo adoption. A stranger in a Walgreens struck up a conversation with me and asked if I had children and I told her, “I never had a chance. It just never happened for me.” She replied, “Honey, if you want it, you can do it. People are single moms all the time, not by choice. You’ll find a way.” I mulled that over for a few weeks until I was at dinner with my mother, splitting a hamburger. We were discussing G and JR’s IFV process and I said something about embryo adoption- she hadn’t heard of it. I said, “I’d do it. I believe they’re little people with unique DNA that already exist in this world who are just waiting for their time to be born. A sperm donor feels wrong, but embryo adoption feels right. It doesn’t feel self-serving, it feels like God’s plan.” I didn’t realize that was where I had landed until I said it out loud. At first, her face was surprised, but then peaceful and she understood what I was saying. I prayed and realized this path had been paved for me, this was always the plan, and I just hadn’t caught up. Everyone I spoke to has been supportive and encouraging. God is the one who breathes life into people, and successful FETs will be miracles by his grace and in fulfillment of his plan for me, you, and his children whom we both care so deeply about protecting during their time on this earth.

 

I am a Christian, and I have been all my life. I committed to following Jesus with intentionality when I was eleven years old. My mother was raised Baptist, and this is my family’s religious leanings, but we are active in a non-denominational church that is committed to biblical teachings and discipleship. I attend church and spend time in prayer with God and his word daily. I have accepted that I am a broken and flawed person in a fallen world, but by God’s grace and mercy this life is temporary, and I am on the path to salvation. It is my greatest honor and mission to bring people with me, including the children that you are considering entrusting to my care. I believe in the importance of being of service to others. It is a remarkable design of how being of service strengthens the good within you. Being of service extends into all facets of my life. I believe in the power of relationships and value the importance of having authentic connections with people who are uplifting, supportive, and have your best interest at heart, wanting nothing for you but joy, peace, and success. I believe in kindness and love and recognize that love does not equate to universal acceptance. We are all imperfect and make misguided decisions, and through the power of relationships and involvement with the church we have a network of people that will help us if we begin to wander astray.

 

Politically, I vote Republican. I am conservative and believe in a small, centralized government. I recognize neither political party is fully aligned with biblical teachings, which is where our focus and heart should lie. I want people to turn to the church when they fall on hard times so the church can support them paired with guidance and counseling to help them overcome and rectify the circumstances causing the hardship. The church is where I think social programs should lie because it’s paired with relationships and accountability. Using the church as a source of support instead of the government will help people to grow and change in necessary ways so they maintain personal responsibility and can in turn help others. I believe free will is one of the greatest gifts God gave us. Because we have free will, we can make choices with intentionality, and we can work to change our circumstances at any time. Through the embodiment of free will, our actions and decisions are much more authentic and profound. I value preparation. When a person is prepared, they have opened themselves to all possibilities so they can make the wisest decision. Thoughtful preparation has a particularly profound impact on your financial security, dietary habits to promote a healthy life, and extracurricular plans to have intentional hobbies that support cognitive enhancement. I want to raise children to be autonomous adults who can set and achieve goals to work toward the life they envision for themselves. I value gratitude and positive thinking. Our brains are hardwired with a negativity bias, but leaning into this tendency does not support a life of peace. Consciously engaging in gratitude and thinking positively is a learned skill that one can acquire through effort and practice. My values are in service of a happy, productive, and intentional life, and this is the model I want to be for my children.

 

I am a friendly and helpful person who values connections with others, always eager to lend a hand or offer support. My reliability is a cornerstone of my character, ensuring that those around me can count on me in any situation. With a strong logical mindset, I approach challenges thoughtfully and intelligently, making well-informed decisions. I am dedicated to my goals and passionate about my pursuits, taking pride in being meticulous in my efforts to achieve excellence. I thrive in environments where collaboration and understanding are key, and I look forward to sharing my positive qualities with a family. My hobbies include very domestic activities. I love sewing, especially quilting. I love giving handmade things to people as gifts. I love to cook meals at home, and I am constantly listening to audiobooks. My favorite genre is historical fiction. I'm an extremely friendly introvert, which seems like a contradiction and many people don't classify me as introverted. Someone told me once that extroverts recharge when they're with people, and introverts recharge when they're alone. I think it's important to have a balance between social time and self-time.

 

I love celebrating holidays and my family has many cherished traditions. My time as a teacher of young children solidified the importance of decorations, special meals and snacks, and holiday-themed activities to bring profound joy to all seasons. I've described some of the holiday traditions in other sections of this profile, so I'll briefly refer to our Easter tradition of attending the church service, an extended family gathering/meal, and an egg hunt for the children. On the fourth of July, we go to our family's lakehouse and enjoy good food with aunts, uncles, and cousins. We have fun on the jetskis and pontoon boat and enjoy the fireworks display at night. All of our holiday traditions are centered around the enjoyment of family and an opportunity to be together and have fun making memories.

 

My job has had a profoundly positive impact on my potential as a parent. I've been in education for 13 years. I've been a Pre-K teacher, a 2nd grade teacher, and most recently the Pre-K instructional coach for our county. I'm highly trained in developmentally appropriate practice and social-emotional development. I've volunteered with Conscious Discipline for nine years, and have become proficient at teaching children skills to support self-regulation and resiliency. In my work, I support teachers, families, and students across the county with trauma-informed practices and strategies when challenging behaviors arise. Due to my experiences in my career, I am strongly convicted against excessive screen time for young children and believe in their engagement in hands-on, brain-building activities and interactions. One of my primary responsibilities in my current role is to help adults learn to support children as they develop their executive skills. I can see from working with teachers and families, that parenting is a worthwhile challenge and everyone can use help and advice from members of their village. I know that when I'm parenting, I'll reach out to the members of the network I've built to help and advise me when I need support.

 

I envision raising two daughters. I'm being intentional about daughters. While I feel like I can provide a wonderful home for children of either gender, being a single mom by choice, I think I would be best able to model a healthy lifestyle for girls. I am flexible on the number of children, depending on the circumstances. At every point in the process, I will have the children's best interests at heart and will remain flexible.

 

Despite coming from a small family, my social support system is strong. The children would have close relationships with their grandparents and their godparents. Since we all live in the same neighborhood, I anticipate these relationships occurring in person almost daily. Their godparents will be first-time parents around the same time, so our children will be close in age. This family will feel like an aunt, uncle, and cousins. I've made numerous connections with people at church and colleagues at work that extend past the workplace. The children will have many people in their corner. Upon hearing about the idea of embryo adoption and being a single mom by choice, several people have said wonderfully supportive things such as, "I will be like the other grandmother! Where can I apply to be an auntie?? You can do this, and I would love to help in any way you'll let me. I call dibs on the baby shower!" My church has an especially well-designed developmentally appropriate children and student ministry. My extended family is close, and even though people have grown up and started families of their own, we still gather at major holidays, and then intermediately between holidays to celebrate each other's life events. These gatherings are always surrounded by food, fun, love, and usually a traditional game of Pictionary! I have an active social life including impromptu pool parties among my friends with their children, sewing circle, groups of friends who attend musicals/plays together, and many dinners to engage in times of fellowship and connection. The people who make up these gatherings are fluid, and they're all entering the stage of life where they're having children as well. I know these friends along with all my family and new school friends we will meet along the way will weave a very authentic, supportive, and loving social network for the children.

 

It's hard to put my dreams for the children into writing. I'm especially excited about sharing all the memories and traditions with them, and I could list these things out one by one. Many things I'm excited about are things I experienced and turned into fond childhood memories of my own, like decorating my mother's lab coat for a contest during LabWeek, taking piano and violin lessons, waking up to evidence Santa had been in the house and had a snack with his reindeer, vacations to all of our favorite spots, fostering kittens for the humane society, and having picnics at the zoo with my father. Young children are my wheelhouse, so I imagine what I will do, say, and sing with them daily. Because of my work in my career, I'm preparing for the difficult times with the children too. I'm confident I will be able to help the girls navigate conflict, guide them as they turn into autonomous problem-solvers, and help them find their assertive voice so they grow into strong and confident women. When a challenge arises, I have a huge network of coaches and colleagues ready to help me brainstorm a plan to help the girls on the continued path to success. I'm excited to have middle schoolers learning to change classes, trying new things, and growing in responsibility. I look forward to high schoolers who form friend groups and follow their passions. I would love for those friend groups to hang out in my living room and let me feed them so they can just focus on their memories and fellowship. I'm excited to watch them choose their college or career path and find themselves in the process. It boils down to a matter of being excited to share life with the children. I live my day-to-day life right now with the idea in the front of my mind, "What would this look like with the girls?" and I'm longing for that day to come.

 

The logistical plans for the children must be more methodical as a single woman, but as someone pointed out: “People are usually thrust into single parenthood because something went unexpectantly wrong, and they have no plan. You’re going into this planning and preparing, and while it will be hard, you’ve got a large supportive network and lots of knowledge about children and how to ensure they have a healthy childhood.” This same friend is in education and uses a home-based daycare in our town. I strongly value her opinions. My main question to her was, “Are they kind? Do they align with our values?” She said they are older ladies running a small operation, extremely kind, and very developmentally appropriate. They’re used to working with teachers, so their hours align with the school system’s hours nicely. She told me they have openings now, and they’d be very welcoming for me to tour their facilities. I have not arranged this appointment yet, but plan to when this dream becomes more concrete. As my children reach school age, my retired father is willing and excited to handle carpool at both ends of the day. My mother is looking to partially retire so she’d work a week or two out of the month and be home as a doting grandmother for the rest. We live in the same neighborhood. I’ll be with the children during the summer months. Eventually, in my career, I would like to move to administration, which would be a 12-month position, but at this time I am focused on the idea of raising a family and having especially enjoyable summers packed with vacations and activities together. I am financially prepared for all of the added expenses of children, including starting their education savings accounts immediately, and will be able to provide them with a comfortable, quality, and joyful start to life.

 

I’m grateful to you for your consideration. I want to express how genuinely honored I am that you considered me as a potential mother for your children. The opportunity to nurture and guide them is a privilege I do not take lightly. I am committed to providing a loving, stable, and enriching environment where they can thrive and grow and achieve the life plan laid before them. Thank you for this chance.

Sincerely,

LM

REFERENCE LETTER 1

October 3, 2024

To Whom It May Concern,

 

I am writing to discuss the reason my daughter will be a wonderful mother.

 

Since she was a very young girl, the drive to nurture was so evident in her play and interests. She was so touched by any scenes in books, in movies, or in real life of a mother and her babies. She would often pretend to be the mother and be so loving and kind to her children. She had a large collection of small stuffed animals, and we would often find her in circle time teaching and caring for all of her children. She loved to feed them, cuddle them, and dress them. As she grew, she would discuss how “when she is a mother” never in a sense of “IF” I am a mother but always a fact that she WILL BE a mother. By the time she was about 5-6, she would tell me that she would be a mother to six children! After she began her professional career, if I asked her about that dream to have six children she would laugh and say she would be a better mother to fewer children.

 

I have been so impressed by her level-headed and mature nature, even as a young child. I have watched her management of big disappointments that come along in life and how mature she was in handling those situations. I watched her face rejections or disappointments but not give up and then figure out a way to “get back on the horse again” and find a new path to reaching her goals. I learned very early in raising her that when her mind is set on a goal then she will find a way to reach it - sometimes overcoming tremendous obstacles because she does not give up. She is all in.

 

It has been painful to watch her reach adulthood and not see her reach the goal of becoming a wife and mother. This has been an interesting journey for her. I admire her strength in walking away from a very serious relationship with a young man who turned out to be a much different person and character than she originally believed. She could have remained in that toxic relationship and become a mother, but she had the wisdom and strength to get out of it. After that relationship ended and no serious relationships and “Mr. Right” didn’t come along – she then resolved herself to live without reaching the wife or motherhood goals.

 

I have watched all her life how she would figure out another way to reach her ultimate goals – here she goes again! She has a wonderful friend who has been on the IVF journey with her husband this past year. As she learned more about that process, then she also learned about embryos that exist but are not brought to birth for various reasons. I have wondered for the last few years if she would consider adoption as a single parent. I was certainly surprised when she approached me with this new idea of the adoption of embryos. She laid the plan out as the most logical and ethical solution. Those lives already exist and how it does not make sense to use her own eggs to create another when those embryos need a chance at life. She thinks so logically and practically. She has carefully thought it out and believes it is a calling for her life- the way that she WILL BE a mother. She is so excited about this path for her future.

 

We have discussed the difficult times that arise as parents and what that would look like as a single parent. She has had careful consideration of those struggles and has plans for handling them with a wonderful support system of friends and family. When she announced to our family her plans to adopt embryos, the family members were absolutely overjoyed and so supportive of the decision! We cannot wait to have our new family members to love, nurture, teach, and watch grow up.

I am so proud of the woman that she has become. There is a high regard for her in her profession, where she has a positive impact on so many lives. I love seeing her success. She has always impressed me with her level of maturity. When she was about 10 years old, I was teaching 3 and 4-year-old children in Sunday School. She wanted to be the “helper” in the room. However, the rule was that you had to be 12 years old to be a room helper. She took her concerns to the pastor’s wife and had a very mature conversation about why she should be allowed to be the helper in her mother's Sunday School room. Before I knew it, not only had she convinced them to “bend the rules," a teacher in another room “stole” her from me and said that she would be a better fit as a helper in her room! I was amazed at how well she interacted with the children in that setting and how they naturally gravitated to her and followed her lead. Even when she reached high school, she could work with the middle school-age children and manage them!

 

I am so excited for her to have the incredible joy of that moment after she gives birth and feels like her heart was removed from her body and laid over on that warming table, where she feels that incredible, most powerful love for her newborn baby. She has become my best friend. I want her to have that wonderful bond with her daughters and to pass it on to them.

 

She will provide a loving and safe environment. We have dreams of our future life adventures with the girls on our family trips and experiences. She told me many years ago that she doesn’t want “stuff” but rather “experiences”. She learned very early that your relationships are what matter and how creating memories is so fulfilling. She wants the joy of seeing her young child’s face the first time she sees Mickey Mouse in person (I can’t wait for that moment to watch them both!), the thrill of reading Good Night Moon for the 400th time and looking for the little mouse on each page, seeing the delight they will exhibit in leaving the cookies they helped bake for Santa and his reindeer, and the experience of working through life’s small mishaps like spilled egg dye on to a fabric chair seat the night before Easter!

 

I am thrilled to become a grandmother, and my husband will be a fabulous Papa. I envision myself moving to part-time work in my profession so that I am available to assist with the children and experience watching them grow and learn. I am so excited for times together as a family such as watching movies, playing games, solving puzzles, building with Legos, making pot holders, traveling and vacationing, trips to the zoo, trips to the pumpkin patch, fishing, feeding fish and ducks, catching lightning bugs, swimming, bicycle riding, baking cookies, making smores, watching live shows like Disney on Ice, going to church, and so many more times together. They will be raised in a loving, caring, and safe environment.

 

Most importantly, my daughter knows the Lord and will raise the children in an environment where they learn about our Savior, Jesus Christ so they too will have guidance in helping them decide to develop a relationship with him.

 

Sincerely,

The Grandmother

REFERENCE LETTER 2

October 3, 2024

To whom it may concern,

 

I have known LM for 9 years. I first met L when we started working together as teachers in a local school system and we have been friends ever since. We live in the same community and are proudly zoned for the same award-winning schools that our future children will attend together. My husband and I are honored to be L’s children’s godparents. We hold the same values as L, and because of this, I can easily envision myself and my husband as a part of the children’s lives. They will always be surrounded by a loving and supportive network committed to their happiness and well-being. We are overjoyed for L as she pursues this path to motherhood, and excited for the children because they would be adopted into a beautiful life.

 

While my husband and I are on our own fertility journey, as soon as we are able to have children, I would trust L with their lives. I have seen L work with children for years, and she is warm, engaging, and creative. She always has a song or game at the ready, so she is prepared to entertain and enrich a class at any moment. The students love when she reads books to them because she is animated and brings the book to life. She’s very knowledgeable about child development and education, so everything she does is purposeful, so the children are learning in a healthy environment. L will have our full support during the embryo transfer process as we know from experience how challenging it can be. We hope to raise our children together in the same neighborhood surrounded by a loving community. I can imagine L and I with our children spending our summer days at the pool, grilling out in the evenings, and seeing the local firework displays on the Fourth of July. We plan to coordinate trick-or-treating in our neighborhood together, and during Christmas, we look forward to traditions like taking our children to see The Nutcracker Ballet, decorating cookies, and seeing the classic Christmas movies at the beautiful historic theater. We will give our children the peaceful, loving, joyful childhood that we had.

 

I personally have seen how L has shown great kindness and patience when working with students in the classroom. She has the knowledge and skillset that people are only born with, and has further enhanced her talents with her study and practice. She is able to keep children safe and engaged all day. She can guide and direct a class full of children with such love and grace. From observing the way she interacts with my students, I know that she would be an excellent mother. She has a solid village with many friends who are excited about this adoption plan in her church, neighborhood, family, and colleagues.

 

L is a gentle person who has a natural inclination to help others and be of service. She is a wonderful example to the children and teachers she works with on a daily basis, she is always there when anyone is in need of help, or just giving them the space to feel safe and loved. L has always described social/emotional learning as her “heartstring” in teaching, and that is evident by how she can connect with children who present challenging behaviors and give them opportunities to learn and practice new skills.

 

I do not know of anything in her character or history that should prevent L from being a successful embryo adoption mother. She is financially able to provide a wonderful life for a child, and she consistently makes rational and thoughtful decisions. She is committed to honoring the children’s biological origins and providing them with all the support they need to have a comprehensive and contented perspective of their history. I wholeheartedly give my recommendation for L to be your embryos’ adopted mother as she will love and provide them with a wonderful life.

 

Sincerely,

GD

REFERENCE LETTER 3

October 21, 2024

 

To Whom It May Concern,

 

I am writing to wholeheartedly recommend Ms. LM as she pursues the journey of expanding her family. I have had the pleasure of working with Ms. M for ten years in her roles as Pre-K teacher and Pre-K Instructional Coach, and I believe she possesses the qualities and character necessary to be an exceptional parent.

 

Throughout her time at [District], L has consistently demonstrated remarkable dedication, responsibility, and compassion. She is highly dependable, always maintaining a positive attitude and showing great empathy in her interactions with colleagues, parents, and students. Her ability to balance professionalism with kindness is truly admirable, and I have no doubt that these same traits will make her a nurturing and supportive parent.

 

Ms. M has also shown strong problem-solving skills, patience, and the ability to manage challenges with grace, all of which are crucial in parenting. She is a person of integrity and has built meaningful relationships in both her professional and personal life, earning both trust and respect.

 

I fully support L in her desire and believe she will provide a stable, loving, and enriching home. Please do not hesitate to contact me if you need further information or would like to discuss Ms. M’s qualifications further.

 

Sincerely,

JH (Supervisor)

 

November 1, 2024

 

To Whom it May Concern,

 

I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude for the incredible gift you have given to a wonderful new mom as she embarks on her journey into motherhood. I met my friend a little over 3 years ago. We quickly bonded over our joined passion of educating parents, teachers and administrators about the importance of creating safe and loving environments that provide an optimal environment for children to learn and grow. It became so clear that my friend's commitment to Conscious Discipline was not simply something she did or taught it was who she was. She understands the profound impact that self-awareness and nurturing connections have on a child’s growth and development. This understanding is at the core of her parenting philosophy, and it speaks volumes about the kind of mother she will be. Her calm nature creates an environment where love and understanding thrive, allowing for genuine connections to flourish.

 

Moreover, she values the importance of a strong support system, and I have witnessed her actively cultivate relationships that have played an integral part in the formation of not just her nuclear family but her extended family network that consists of supporting friends and church family. She is passionate about instilling family traditions, recognizing that these practices not only strengthen bonds but also provide children with a sense of belonging and security. She once shared with me that as a child she was extremely close to her grandmother and some of her most treasured childhood memories consist of spending weekends with her grandmother visiting the library, baking brownies, and learning all about music as they listened to records of some of her grandmother’s favorite artists like Frank Sinatra and Bing Crosby.

 

One characteristic that sticks out to me is the innate way my friend intentionally shows kindness to everyone she meets. I picture her raising her little girl with that same giving spirit and that mindset of together they can make this world a better place.

 

In addition to her nurturing spirit, her strong faith serves as a guiding light in her life. It shapes her values and provides her with a deep sense of purpose, reminding her of the importance of compassion, gratitude, and resilience. This faith will undoubtedly play a vital role in her parenting journey, helping her instill these values in her child and create a loving, spiritually rich environment.

 

Thank you for playing such a pivotal role in this beautiful journey. Your generosity and kindness have made a significant impact, and I have no doubt that she will be an extraordinary mother, nurturing her child with the love and values she holds dear.

 

Wishing you Well,

TM (Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor)

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